melting hearts of stone

A very well-known phrase came to mind today as I was running.

Fake it ’til you make it.

Have you ever had to fake it ’til you made it?

I know I have. It’s when you know what the right thing to do is, but your heart is not yet feeling it. It’s head knowledge but far from being your heart’s desire.

It’s often been said that it takes 90 days to break bad habits and to start forming new habits. I suppose this is why drug and alcohol rehab programs always stress a 90 day commitment. We need to give our hearts the chance to catch up and jump on board with the idea.

So often, I think Christ asks us to do things we might not feel like doing. But, out of obedience we do these things. We learn the value of doing it His way.

I can recall a time in my life when I knew the right thing to do. It was black and white. My head knew what needed to be done but my heart was far from agreeing. So, I agreed to do what Christ was asking me to do. I would commit to doing it His way, even though my heart was still continuing to kick,scream and complain.

In my conversations with the Lord, I basically agreed to fake it til I make it. I would do it His way even though I was baffled at how He was going to get me from where I was(and more importantly where my heart was) to where He wanted me to be.

My heart was stubbornly wanting what it wanted. How was he possibly going to change me? At this point, I feel I made one of the best decisions of my life… I stopped questioning how God was going to do this and just decided to believe that He could.

If you think about this concept…faking it til we make it… it shouldn’t be that huge a stretch for most us. If you are anything like me, you spent years and years of your life pretending…so I was pretty good at faking things and going through the motions.

But this time, the difference was that I talked it over with the Lord. I confessed to Him how I was feeling about the whole issue. I confessed to Him that my heart wasn’t in it. I cried to Him about it and I yelled at Him about it. And, He patiently listened to me.

Committing to doing it Christ’s way when there is no enthusiasm or passion behind the choice is one of the most difficult things we will ever do in life. It’s kind of like when a parent reprimands you. You stop doing what they ask you to stop doing…but you are not happy about it. During the whole process, I lost count of how many times I pleaded with God to change my heart. If this is what you want, Lord… CHANGE MY HEART!

We make the decision to do it the Lord’s way out of obedience and somehow during the whole process Christ miraculously does change our hearts. Somehow, through this act of obedience God’s desire for our lives becomes our desires too. He melts our stubborn hearts of stone.

I still haven’t a clue as to how He does this, I just know that He does!

A day does not go by in my life where I am not incredibly grateful for His power to change hearts!

8 thoughts on “melting hearts of stone

  1. Kandi

    I have never heard anyone say it that way before. There have many times over the years where I have faked it, I knew what was right so I did it and I said it, but my heart hadn't caught up to my head yet. In many ways I felt like a fake and fraud, but over time He changed my heart to match my head and thankfully I did not give up.

    Blessings to you.

  2. Phather Phil Malmstrom

    This was an absolutely wonderful article Eileen.

    Taking leaps of faith very often require that we do what our head knows is the right path, and waiting for our hearts to catch up. People usually look at going to God as "following your heart", but I've found that in many cases (including myself) there has to be that conscious decision to follow him first; the head leads the heart and He makes the transformation complete.

    Thank you so much for this, and have a very Blessed Weekend!

  3. Lisa

    You're right, it's not up to question why, but just to obey. I haven't thought of it this way before – to fake it til we make it, but I want to obey God no matter what.

  4. Fields of gold

    Great advice Eileen! I've noticed my mind is like that too. I have to "believe" something even when I don't really believe it. Most times it catches me by surprise when months have gone by in 'faking' it, and voila! The old heart/head connections are gone and I'm a new creation. He's good like that!

  5. Tiffini

    this really spoke to my heart Eileen…I guess what I am wrestling with is the thing that I want to be obedient doesn't " feel " like what He would want but also I agree with your words that what He may want to do through my decision could bring the change my heart would ultimately like to see but also I'm old enough to know that not all things are restored. Not that He can't … some just don't want to be restored. I know not making much sense but I love your words … a lot tonight..or this morning. Thanking God upon every remembrance of you..thanking Him for your prayers:)

  6. Hershey's Moma

    I love these thoughts as I have been saying this exact phrase to myself a lot lately. I 'learned' the fake it till you make it theory years ago in a situation I just couldn't believe God would want me to do. Now I smile as once again he is asking me to do something my heart isn't totally in. I'm faking it and I know I will make it with Him right beside me…
    P.S. I'm a runner too 🙂

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