My son and I were talking about character on a recent car ride. I LOVE car ride conversations with my boy. I’ve been thinking quite a bit about the ideas we discussed.
Character, respect, integrity, humility, honesty, compassion, kindness
These things matter deeply to me.
These things matter more to me than if you lean to the left or if you lean to the right. They matter more to me than if a politician has an (R) after their name or a (D). These things matter more to me than whether you and I agree completely on a political, personal, or lifestyle issue or if you and I are radically different.
For 10 years (ten LONG years), I lived my young adult life knowing what it felt like to be lied to, deceived, manipulated, used, and taken advantage of. I also learned how to unhealthily adapt to that kind of toxic environment. I learned to lie and deceive myself and others. I learned to rationalize things that were clearly wrong. I became a queen of justification.
And then, one day, the pain of living a fake and inauthentic life caught up to me (it couldn’t help but catch up with me because I was living in a prison of my own making) And, on that day, I made a different decision…chose a different direction.
I said NO MORE. Never again.