This is a picture of my mom. It was taken many years before I was born and even before my mom and dad were married. But, for some reason, it’s my favorite picture. She looks so happy. This July will mark 21 years since my mom went hope to be with the Lord. In honor of Mother’s Day, I thought I would share 21 memories with you today:
1. Sitting at the kitchen table and playing countless games of Scrabble. And yes, I credit my love for this game to her.
2. Listening to her sing and play guitar while she shared with me a new song that she wrote.
3. Watching her as she sat on the floor in our hallway with our shivering dog who feared thunderstorms. She would cover his eyes with a pillow and gently stroke his back.
4. Curling up together in the evening and reading a book to her…usually a new Beverly Cleary book.
5. Sitting in Carl’s Jr on Friday afternoon after school, drinking a Coke and sharing an order of fried zucchini.
6. Eating popcorn and watching The Sound of Music together…year, after year, after year.
7. Riding home from school one day and watching my mom pull off of the rural Arizona road to talk to a young man whose car had broken down. She cracked the window when he reached for the door handle and said, “I’m sorry, I can’t give you a ride, but when I get home I can call someone to come pick you up if you want to tell me who to call.” The man gave my mom his mom’s phone number. That mom was thrilled to receive my mom’s phone call.
8 Making her lunch when she became ill. Velveeta Shells & Cheese was the most popular request.
9 The hours I was blessed to spend with her on the Sunday she died.
10 For all her reminders to seek the beautiful in the midst of life’s struggles. Not so much with her words, but more by the way she lived her life.
11. Laughing together about things that only a mom and her daughter would find funny.
12. Taking walks together
13. Lying down in the bed next to her when she was having one of her painful migraine headaches. She had a water-bed (remember those) and I always had to climb onto it slowly and gently to assure I didn’t make too many waves.
14. Stretching out on the couch in the evening while she read. One hand would hold her book, the other would tickle my legs while I stretched them out over her lap.
15. The conversation we would often have.
“You know, Mom, you’re my favorite Mom” I’d say.
And she would respond, “And, you’re my favorite daughter.”
As the only daughter (I have two brothers) it was our little, silly way of saying we loved one another.
16. One summer my mom was called for jury duty. I accompanied her every day and sat in the court room to listen to the attempted murder case. The woman on trial was convicted and sent to prison. My mom was touched by her situation and reached out to the woman. They wrote letters to one another for years.
17. Listening to my mom share her testimony at church one Sunday morning. It happened to be Christmas that Sunday.
18. Going to a sleep over at a friend’s house and drifting off to sleep thinking about my mom…convinced that, surely, she was missing me as much as I was missing her.
19. Sitting on our back deck with two other teens from our church as my mom led us in a summer Bible study.
20. Having her incredible support and her guidance during my shy and awkward school years. She was definitely this teenager’s best friend.
21. Her beautiful smile.
So what about you? What are some of your favorite Mom memories? And, if you are a mom or dad, what do you hope your children will remember about you?