This weekend I flew out to Arizona to be at the funeral for the dad of my good friend, Yvette. I’ve been friends with Yvette and her family for nearly 25 years. As I drove back up to Tucson today to spend one more day with my dad before flying back to Georgia tomorrow, I thought about how nothing in life ever stays the same. Okay, so I know this isn’t shocking news, but for some reason, the whole idea hit me again as I drove away from the town where I spent a huge chunk of my childhood. So much has changed in my 42 years on earth…with me, with my family, with my friends, with my circumstances, and with life. Life feels like one big lesson on how to live life in the midst of its ever-changing seasons.

Sometimes, life seems to be an ongoing journey of learning how to process change. There are times when the lesson we need to learn is how to cling tighter. Some changes we face will require us to hold on and fight…not in a stubborn or angry way but in a persevering “I’m not giving up” way. Then, there are other times when the lesson we need to learn is how to loosen our grip or how to let go completely. The change requires us to surrender, not in weak way, but with an understanding that letting go is the only road that will lead us to peace and freedom.

Yet regardless of which lesson we need to learn…the cling tighter lesson or the let go lesson, the goal remains the same:

What steps must we take or what choices must we make to keep progressing down the road?

It’s probably not a shock to those of you who know me, but I cried (just a little bit) as I thought about all of this on my trip back up to Tucson today.  I cried because it’s hard and it’s beautiful and it’s painful and it’s joyful and it’s sad and it’s hopeful. It’s all those things to me.

But, most of all, it’s worth it.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, because He who promised is faithful.” Hebrews 10:23

“We have this hope as an anchor for our soul, firm and secure.” Hebrews 6:19





2 thoughts on “Change

  1. Bill (cycelguy)

    First, I look at that picture you took and compare it to the white stuff and freezing temps we have been having and find myself green with envy. 🙂 Second, it takes discernment to know when to let go and when to hold on. I’m not sure I am an expert in that department. Let me rephrase that: I know I am not an expert in that department. Hoping you have a nice reunion with your dad and leave (even with a heavy heart) and joy-filled heart that you fulfilled what it means to be a friend and you got to see your dad.

    1. Eileen Post author

      Thanks, Bill. I’m with you, definitely not an expert either. Usually, it’s a lot of trial and error. It was a great visit. I’m so glad I was able to be there for a few days.


Leave a Reply to Eileen Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.