Living Expectantly Without Expectations Credit: Dreamstime

Yesterday evening I finally had the opportunity to take a look inside some of the houses my husband found when he began the The Great House Search of 2013 a month ago. We looked at three. I really liked number three. I could picture us living there.

The realtor sent us the seller’s disclosure information and we are doing research on the quality of the neighborhood and the school. I have found myself getting hopeful and then getting fearful. What if someone else puts in an offer and we miss our chance?

Then, I take a deep breath and remind myself of what matters most. God, put us where we belong. If this one isn’t the one…then shut the door and lead us to the right one.

All this thinking and dreaming prompted me to think of a post I wrote a couple of years ago about living expectantly.  I thought I would post it again.  A reminder for you and for me.


I’ve discovered that real life requires me to live expectantly without expectations.

Can you recall a vacation or a holiday where you were all excited and you could hardly wait for the big event to arrive. You envisioned it playing out one way and when the time arrived it was nothing like you imagined.

In real life things often don’t turn out the way we expect them to.
When I was younger, this used to really bother me. It used to leave me feeling empty and discouraged when my expectations were not met. Now, I live expectantly without expectations. I don’t get my hopes up anymore for a certain situation or a certain person to act the way I think they should.

Today, my desire is to live in the moment, the real life moment in front of me, and to not waste time worrying about why that moment doesn’t always look like the perceived one I had rolling around in my head.

Lower your expectations of earth. This isn’t heaven, so don’t expect it to be. ~ Max Lucado

In the morning, LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. Psalm 5:3

14 thoughts on “Living Expectantly Without Expectations

  1. Joy Lenton

    A thought-provoking post, Eileen. I love the Max Lucado quote. So true. Yet we can live so earthly-minded that we forget we’re just passing through because this world is not our heart’s eternal home. There is a natural, media-driven expectation for a great life, whereas a biblical expectation allows for trials, troubles and difficulties. Such things develop the fruit of patient endurance and perseverance in us and mature our walk with God. Though it is very hard to welcome them, never mind rejoice! We are in a good place when our faith in God shows such trust in His character that we rest in whatever He chooses to provide. An ongoing learning process while we are here. Hope all goes well with the house searching. Blessings and prayers 🙂 xx

  2. Carol Peterson

    The photo you used is probably not one you took yourself. But I can’t help “hoping” that you might find your next house on a street named “Hope.” I’m still remembering your earlier post about living on a street with a “pretty name.” (smile)

  3. Shelley

    Allowing God to put you in the home he desires for you is the best way to see things. There may be a neighbor who has been waiting for someone like you to show them the love of God. Knowing that it is the Lord who ultimately controls our lives gives us a sense of peace and security we could not achieve on our own. When we accept this, patience is attainable.

    May the Lord bless you abundantly in your search for a new home.

  4. Anne

    I love the Max Lucado quote, “…This isn’t Heaven, so don’t expect it to be.” Something to keep in front of oneself all the time.

  5. terrie

    Eileen wonderful thoughts. I guess my childlike wonder still lets me live in expectation, although I have learned not to place too much expectation in people. God is growing my love for people and accepting them for who they are, but people let us down. I plant my faith and hope squarely in Jesus, He never lets me down but encourages me in the rough spots.

    I expect the sun to come up everyday, no matter where I find myself. I do embrace the unexpected a little more easily and know all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose.

    I know the Lord will provide the perfect home for you – Let go and Let God.

    Peace and Many Blessings!!

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