When You Kinda Wish Your Love Language Was Physical Touch


This morning I sat here pondering how it kind of stinks to be a writer whose love language is Words of Affirmation.  I think it would be easier to be a writer if my love language was Physical Touch.  Think about it for a second.  It really would be easier.  So many writers already struggle with fear of rejection each time they “ship” their words.  But, us writers, who are also afflicted with this particular love language? (I’m not sure what you’re envisioning right now but I’m envisioning a guy named Paul and a thorn.) It makes for a hard existence.

By the way, this is about the time in the post when you should be feeling compelled to comfort me with your words of affirmation. 😉

I’m bringing this up because, about month ago, I was  given the opportunity  to take the five love languages test again.  I was participating in a four-week study designed to give us tips on how to better communicate with the people in our lives. I took the test years ago and got the same results then too: Words of Affirmation was #1 Acts of Service #2.

I’ve been writing on my blog for over five years now and I have to say, if I had depended primarily on words of affirmation to keep going…I would have quit years ago.  Many days, those words don’t come. But, that’s okay. Over the years I’ve learned that when we love something, when we are passionate about something, we’ll continue to move forward even when there’s silence…especially when there’s silence.

We keep going because what we are doing is similar to breathing oxygen. We keep going because there’s something inside us, some force, that keeps driving us.

We inhale, we exhale.

We get out of bed and we put our jumbled thoughts and feelings into words.

I think this is also a good way to weed out the things in our lives that maybe we shouldn’t be spending so much time on. I’ve always loved this quote.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

This morning, I want to encourage anyone who might need this reminder today:  keep breathing in and out…even if you are currently walking through the valley of doubt and discouragement. Keep going. I know it’s hard sometimes. I know it’s quiet sometimes. But that thing in your life that makes you come alive?  That’s the unique contribution the world needs from you!

Stuart Smalley…just because it makes me laugh.

3 thoughts on “When You Kinda Wish Your Love Language Was Physical Touch

  1. Carol Peterson

    Eileen, I swing by from time to time, since back when we were together with Chris, Jon and Lynn’s “Network.” At some point my computer disallowed me from leaving comments but I do stop by and enjoy your delightful writing.

    Yesterday I was sweeping out some of the blogs I receive automatically and I paused only a second over yours before leaving yours right where it was. This morning I will try again to leave a note for you because of your encouragement to me to tell others that they are encouragers. Affirmative word love language? Eileen, you do good!

    Thank you for the fine quality of your writing and for the meaning you put into it. Now let’s see if my computer will allow me to post this here…

    1. Eileen Post author

      Yay, it worked! I can see your comment. 🙂 Thanks for your encouragement. The “Network” sure was fun, glad out paths collided!!

  2. Bill (cycelguy)

    Well, welcome to my world. I am a Physical Touch person. First and foremost. My wife is Quality Time. By rights they don’t go together very well. 🙂 Anyway, since you need the affirmation: well done. LOL. I love the quote at the beginning Eileen. I remember reading that in Wild at Heart and it stuck with me. BTW: i wasn’t just blowing smoke. You do a great job of putting your thoughts into words.


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