I was excited to write another Five Minute Friday all week. It’s a time when we just write for 5 minutes not worrying whether everything is just right. This morning I check over at Gypsy Mama’s site to discover the fun topic for today…LOSS.
And here was my reaction…
Really, Lord? Again?
I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was 18 year old. She died on July 14, 1991. That was 20 years ago, yesterday. Yesterday, I wrote this post Twenty Years Ago Today.
I have written SO many posts about this particular loss in my life. Before losing someone close to me, I used to think grief was something you “got over” and you stopped talking about it. I don’t believe this anymore. It is normal to carry the loss of a loved one with you the rest of your days on this earth. Life does move on and goes on. You discover joy, and laughter, and happiness again. But, a part of you never forgets and never gets over it. And, I wouldn’t want it any other way. (Except for the option of no more death and no more tears.)
I love memories of my mom. I loved her smile and her laugh. I loved how she would tickle my back if I stretched out on the couch next to her. I loved going for walks with her. I loved riding along in the car with her and singing the most recent song she had written about her love for the Lord. I loved popping popcorn and watching The Sound of Music with her for the 85th time.
I loved her… I still love her.
If you are experiencing a recent loss in your life, I want these next couple sentences to speak directly to you.
Don’t believe the lie that you have to “get over it.” If you need to talk about it. Talk about it. If you need to cry about it. Cry about it. If you need to write about it. Write about it.
I am so thankful that this separation from a loved one in my life is temporary. I will see her again one day. What an amazing reunion that will be!