No One Likes A Whiner


This is the sign hanging over the door to my home office. Some good friends of ours passed it down to us once their kids grew up and moved out of the house.

While out on my run this morning, I was thinking about how this advice comes in handy for adults too. We sometimes resort to whining when plans don’t progress the way we envision them progressing.

But, I can think of three much more productive alternatives to complaining.

1. Pray

Why is this so hard to do? Why is it that we often throw tantrums or pity parties first? Prayer will always shift our focus off of the situation and onto Him.

Discuss the concern with Him and see if your attitude changes.

2. Count Your Blessings

We often get fixated on what we don’t have and forget about all we do have. I recently watched this video and it made me so thankful for the things I often take for granted.

Gratitude helps us to put our whining into perspective and reminds us of what is important.

3. Act

Instead of grumbling about why things are the way they are… perhaps we need to act. Several years ago, I was whining that my church really needed to start a recovery-type small group for people in need of a safe place to come and find healing.

I kept saying…why don’t we have something like that? We need a group like that! So, one Sunday I approached an elder friend at church and shared whined to him about why we needed this option.

His response was, “That sounds like a great idea! Would you be willing to lead the group?”

Gulp. Me? You mean the girl who’s afraid to open her mouth in public (except this one time when she’s whining).

“Umm…yeah, I guess I could.”

If we can be a part of the solution then we need to stop whining and we need to act.

Thou Shalt Not Whine.

Thou Shalt Pray
Thou Shalt Count Blessings
Thou Shalt Act.

Can you think of other productive alternatives to whining?

Share them below.

Linking up with Jen today at Finding Heaven.

14 thoughts on “No One Likes A Whiner

  1. Tracy

    Hi Eileen – great post. i need a sign like that in my house. For me :), I like your alternatives, pray, thankfulness and act. Excellent options, all bringing our focus to God.
    God bless
    Tracy

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  2. Jenifer

    First off, congrats on your new group. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I am praying God gives you strength and courage! You CAN do this through Him! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Second, yes counting our blessings is a great way to get over whining. I was whining yesterday because I am in GREAT need of new appliances. My dryer keeps EATING my clothes. Not as in socks disappearing but as in holes in brand new clothing. My icebox went completely out and my back up icebox leaks everywhere. My couch has little rips due to dogs that will not stay off of it. So I was whining yesterday and God reminded me to praise Him for what I do have. Yes my couch is unattractive and has rips, but praise God we have a comfortable place to sit. Yes our back up icebox leaks, but praise God we have it. I will continue to praise Him! Great post!

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  3. Eileen

    Tracy, Yes! I need that sign too!

    Arny, that's my favorite too. Nothing like serving other to help take away our whining!

    Jenifer, I actually started that recovery group about 5 years ago. I led the group for about 2 years. Now I lead women's bible study. But, that event always reminds me that if we want to change something…it often takes action on our part! And Jenifer, I can so relate to rundown appliances and couches. Our couch is a mess too and our fridge leaks on me every time I open it! But, yet we praise HIM!!

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  4. Tony J. Alicea

    I like this a lot, Eileen. I'm definitely not a fan of whining…or whiners for that matter. I'd put a sign up like that in a heart beat.

    I don't have a problem with a good vent every once in awhile but the difference is that whiners never really stop. They don't usually care for help or encouragement. They just want to complain and never do anything about it.

    There should be some kind of plague unleashed if you break the commandment of thou shalt not whine.

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  5. Eileen

    Ooh, an unleashed plague…now that would be interesting. Although, considering how stubborn us humans can be sometimes…it might not help much ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thanks for stopping by, Tony! I loved your post today.

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  6. Jen

    Beautiful! Perhaps I will take all of these new commandments and blow them up, poster-size for my house. What great perspective!

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  7. Pam

    This sign should be mass produced. I think we need one at our office. I actually thought about taking a wine bottle from a neighbor's recycling bin and putting it on my desk with a little sign that says, Whine 5ยข! Maybe I should write: Pray Count Act on cards and hand them out instead. Hmmmmmm…Thanks for the good ideas!
    Pam

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  8. Kandi

    Eileen,

    Oh my how I need a sign like that! I love your list of three things, to pray, count our blessings and do for others. I had to chuckle a bit when the church suggested you lead the group, isn't that like God to do something like that, take you out of your comfort zone and put you somewhere completely out of your comfort zone, but that is so great that that group got started because of you.

    Blessings.

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  9. Faith Confessions

    Thank you for this reminder. I rotate between whining about where we live to being thankful we have a home. I need to rotate between thankful and prayer and leave out the whining. I also need to add in the do for others more. I love the idea of having this on a sign!

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  10. Eileen

    Jen, I agree…for the kids and the adults! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Pam, I like your card idea!

    Kandi, love how He does this too. When we finally step out of our comfort zones were are finally forced to depend on Him completely.

    Kelli, Lol! Cause that's why it's over my door too. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Faith Confessions, great idea. Leave the whining out of the equation all together!

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  11. Allison

    I am loving the alternatives to whining. I used to be a whiner, but my hubby used the verse in Philippians 'do all things without complaining or arguing' so many times I finally got a grip ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  12. Lisa

    Great encouragement, Eileen! A friend once told instead of complaining, be part of the solution. I'm learning to whine less and pray more – it's a process. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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