This morning I sat here pondering how it kind of stinks to be a writer whose love language is Words of Affirmation. I think it would be easier to be a writer if my love language was Physical Touch. Think about it for a second. It really would be easier. So many writers already struggle with fear of rejection each time they “ship” their words. But, us writers, who are also afflicted with this particular love language? (I’m not sure what you’re envisioning right now but I’m envisioning a guy named Paul and a thorn.) It makes for a hard existence.
By the way, this is about the time in the post when you should be feeling compelled to comfort me with your words of affirmation. 😉
I’m bringing this up because, about month ago, I was given the opportunity to take the five love languages test again. I was participating in a four-week study designed to give us tips on how to better communicate with the people in our lives. I took the test years ago and got the same results then too: Words of Affirmation was #1 Acts of Service #2.
I’ve been writing on my blog for over five years now and I have to say, if I had depended primarily on words of affirmation to keep going…I would have quit years ago. Many days, those words don’t come. But, that’s okay. Over the years I’ve learned that when we love something, when we are passionate about something, we’ll continue to move forward even when there’s silence…especially when there’s silence.
We keep going because what we are doing is similar to breathing oxygen. We keep going because there’s something inside us, some force, that keeps driving us.
We inhale, we exhale.
We get out of bed and we put our jumbled thoughts and feelings into words.
I think this is also a good way to weed out the things in our lives that maybe we shouldn’t be spending so much time on. I’ve always loved this quote.
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman
This morning, I want to encourage anyone who might need this reminder today: keep breathing in and out…even if you are currently walking through the valley of doubt and discouragement. Keep going. I know it’s hard sometimes. I know it’s quiet sometimes. But that thing in your life that makes you come alive? That’s the unique contribution the world needs from you!
Stuart Smalley…just because it makes me laugh.